One Step at a Time

Hello readers! Okay, I know it’s been almost a month since my last post: let me explain. I’ve been dealing with a lot mentally, and emotionally, to where I just had to put the things that I enjoy on hold. After taking some time to myself (to take care and focus on myself) I want to slowly get back into blogging. I know I may have lost some readers, which is understandable! To the ones who have stuck around, thank you for always being patient with me.

I don’t want to get too into details of the why, but I want to get into the hows when it came to slowly taking care of myself. As I always say, if you’re in a similar situation, these tips may help, but not guaranteed to work for you. When we’re stuck in a rut, or just feeling helpless, it can be difficult to get out of that mental headspace. It’s even more difficult to get out of when you struggle with mental health, as I do.

Just know that if you’re struggling with feeling happy, or just getting out of that rut, it is completely normal. Your feelings are valid and it’s tough! Just know that you won’t feel like that forever. You may not feel better in a day, which is also completely fine, but what matters is you are trying. Speaking to my therapist, she’s told me when I’m in those moments is to pick one thing you can do to feel like you did something. What I mean by that is, even if you don’t want to do it, push yourself to do it, and I promise you’ll feel better knowing you did it.

For example. During my really bad moments, I didn’t want to speak to anyone. I just wanted to shut myself off from others because I felt like being alone was better. Now it’s fine to feel like that for a few hours, but that feeling, I had for days. After speaking to my therapist about it, she gave me an assignment: what’s one thing I can do that I’d rather not do? So I told her I can reach out to a friend of mine, and I did, and I felt good doing it.

Sometimes the things we don’t want to do is exactly the thing we need to do to feel better. As I stated in the beginning of the blog, I avoided my blog for almost a month because, as much as I love writing and blogging, my drive and passion was slowly slipping away due to the sadness I was in. From then on, I try to do at least one thing I prefer not to do, do it, and I slowly started feeling okay to better. That one thing can honestly be anything. It can be reaching out to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, reading, going outside, or just taking some time for yourself.

Your happiness, your mental health, and you are extremely important. When you’re in that dark headspace, it feels almost impossible to get out. Even if it feels impossible to get out, you slowly gather the littlest amount of strength, and the little amount becomes bigger and bigger, to where you are able to find love and passion for things again. It’s not impossible, you aren’t the negative thoughts, you are amazing. Don’t give up on yourself, forgive yourself, and take care of yourself. Life may seem tough, you may feel like things only get worse, but you will overcome this.

I take it day by day, but I’m slowly getting back to enjoys things I love. Lately I’ve been creating makeup looks and posting them on Instagram (also let me know if any of you are interested in reading a blog post about my makeup looks and my love for makeup). It’s a form of self-care and self-love. I’ve been getting into shows or watching some shows I’m a bit behind on. I’m trying to not be closed off and reach out to friends. It’s a battle, but I know I can overcome it. Sound off in the comments below. Was there ever a time, past or present, you felt closed off and lost interest in the things you loved? What did you do to get back into your passion.

As always, thank you so much for reading, commenting, liking, sharing, and subscribing!