Hello Readers! I know we’re almost done with November (I really feel like this year has gone by so quickly), but I think this topic I want to talk about really fits with today! So in the US, we celebrate Thanksgiving, which can be many things for people. Personally, I see Thanksgiving as a day to enjoy yummy food, spend quality time with my whole family, and honestly give thanks to the things I do have. I may be down from time to time and struggling, but I try to remind myself that there’s so much in my life that I’m so grateful for. With that all said, let’s get to the topic: being grateful.
When I started my self-love journey in 2014, there was a 30 day “program” I took part on (regarding “winning someone back”). I do not recommend partaking (because it cost money), but I do think some bits and pieces of the program was helpful! For example, the first step of the “program” was self-love, so for 30 days, I wrote down on a piece of paper 3-5 things I’m grateful for. Now, I’m sure you’re wondering how does writing down 3-5 things you’re grateful for help you with self-love or bettering yourself?
That’s a good question! Amy Morin, a licensed clinical social worker, states that by being grateful, it builds up your self esteem (Morin, 2015). She states, “Rather than becoming resentful toward people who have more money or better jobs—a major factor in reduced self-esteem—grateful people are able to appreciate other people’s accomplishments” (Morin, 2015). When I wrote down the things I was grateful for every day, thought about those things, and see them on paper, it truly made me see how lucky I am to have the things I do. Just reminding myself of the good things, and people, in my life slowly helped my mood.
Recently, I bought a book called the “Daily Five Minute Journal”. In this journal, I spend 2-3 minutes in the morning,writing down what I’m grateful for, three goals I have to make my day good, and two affirmations about myself. Before I go to bed, I spend 2-3 minutes writing down three things that happened that I am grateful for and two things I could have done to make my day better. I just recently started, but I’m really hoping by doing this, it’ll help me not to dwell on the negatives in my life and truly be grateful for the good that is in my life.
Although it’s only been a few days since I started writing in this journal, it’s amazing to see the good things I do have in my life. I have amazing friends who reach out to me and are extremely supportive, a family that does care and love me, a roof over my head, clothes on my back, food for my stomach, and I’m able to live to see another day. Just having that reminder snaps me back to reality when I try to fade into negativity. Just taking in the things I’m grateful for puts me in a good headspace and makes me hopeful for the day and the days to come.
This may be a challenge I’ll plan for next month, but if you celebrate Thanksgiving, or just want to see how it affects your mood, take a day to write down the things you’re truly grateful for. Maybe it’s your friends you have that got your back, your family who remind you you’re loved, a job you have so you don’t have to stress about bills, a pet that greets you with love when they see you, or maybe you’re grateful for being alive another day. Once you write down what you’re grateful for, reflect, and see how it changes your mindset. If you’re able to, see if you can do this the next day, and the day after! Once you make it into a pattern, see how your mindset slowly changes. Even Oprah Winfrey wakes up every morning and says “thank you”.
For my US readers, what are you looking forward to this Thanksgiving? To all my readers, what are you grateful for in your life? It can be honestly the biggest or simplest thing. Let’s all share what we’re grateful for and treasure those things in our life. As always, thank you so much for reading, commenting, liking, sharing, and subscribing!
Morin, A. (2015, April 03). 7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude. Retrieved November 22, 2018, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude