Hello readers! So as we all know, a few days ago, it was Valentine's Day. Some people see it as a holiday to spoil their significant others, some see it as "single awareness day", some, like myself, see it as self-love day. I actually planned to blog about this a week before Valentine's Day, and even though it's already the 16th, it's still an important topic.
So if you've been reading my past blog posts, I've been single for a few years now (almost two years). It's mostly by choice, due to my heart still hurting. I don't want to continue beating a dead horse about the topic, so we'll leave it as that. So for me, Valentine's Day can be a painful reminder of someone I love and miss dearly. Seeing couples at stores, or seeing cute engagement tweets or commercials made me somber over my situation. These past few days, however, I've taken the time to evaluate my situation and where I am.
As I sat alone, drinking my coffee out of my cute mug, I realized that it's ok to be alone. Now, when I say that, I mean it's ok romantically to be alone. I prefer not to be alone when it comes to friendships, because honestly, friendships and close bonds mean so much to me. Growing up, I used to always fantasize about "the one just for me". I still would love to one day find the person for me, the person I can share my future with and give my love to. However, as I get older, I realize being in a relationship isn't everything.
I don't want to be defined by the person I'm with romantically. I don't want who I am as a person to be ignored and just be shown through a relationship status. I may be 26, but I have so much growing up to do. By being alone romantically, I've been able to slowly grow and figure out what I want to do with my life. Honestly, by being alone, there's a lot you can do when you aren't in a relationship.
One, you can really channel into yourself and see what things you want to try. By being alone, I can try new hobbies I would probably never have been into if I was in a relationship (for me, paper folding or learning to play the keyboard is one). When you're alone, you're able to treat yourself more, like sitting down and enjoying that cup of coffee, or going to a spa to get that massage. If you have the funds and feeling extra, you can also go on a mini vacation alone for yourself! That's something I plan to do one day in my life.
Now, as I type this down, I'm not saying I never want to be in a relationship again. I would love to be with someone who loves me, but instead of dwelling on being alone, I'm appreciating the positives of being alone. Society, friends, and family, can sometimes make it sound like being alone is an awful thing. It's not! It gives you time to grow, learn about yourself, and love yourself. Being alone is the perfect way to appreciate and love you. We tend to ignore the love we have for ourselves, yet, self-love is so important.
I know I've said it before in a previous blog, but you're stuck with yourself until the day you die, wouldn't to want to care and appreciate yourself before that happens? To wrap it up all nicely, it's alright to be alone. It's not a bad thing, it's not the end of the world, and it's one of the best things you can have. During your alone period, you have time to appreciate you, treat yourself, learn new tricks or start a new hobby. Being alone isn't a curse, so don't ever let someone bring you down for being alone. As always, thank you so much for reading, like, comment, share, and subscribe!
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