Try and Try Again

When it comes to life, some people tend to focus more on the negatives rather than the positives, at least that's what I catch myself doing a lot. What I mean by the negatives is we may sometimes focusing solely on the failures in our lives rather than look at the successes. For example, you graduated college and that's great, but you may focus that you still don't have a career in your field. Another example is you just recently got out of a relationship, and this can be a good opportunity to focus on you and better yourself, but you still focus on the fact that the relationship failed.

What I'm trying to say is although we may "fail" at something, or something just didn't work out, those moments don't make us a failure. Many failures can be turned into a good thing. Now I know this is easier said than done (knowing me, I'll still focus on my failures), and I also know that this mindset may not work for all situations, but hear me out. This mindset is perfect for if you didn't get that job, if you're struggling with a breakup, or if you didn't do very well in a class or on an exam. 

Recently, I've started changing my way of thinking when it comes to failures in my life. The last two or three weeks, I've dealt with a lot of failures, whether it's another e-mail from an employer I applied to telling me I'm not "the right fit", seeing others my age already getting married or having kids, or even not being where I want to be exactly when it comes to my work or life in general. During those moments, when I find myself focusing on the failures, I try to snap out of it and tell myself that it's just leading me closer and closer to where I want to be.

So what that I got another e-mail saying I didn't get that job I was hoping for? It just means I'm one step to getting the job that's right for me. Yes it hurts that my relationship or someone I was interested in didn't work out, and I may still be sad about it longer than I expected, but that doesn't make me a failure as a person. Those times are the perfect opportunity to learn more about yourself, grow as a person, and better yourself. Plus, if they broke your heart, it's their loss, you're awesome. 

When it comes to failures or rejection, we can't let it break us down and destroy us. Instead of seeing these as the end all of our career or how we see ourselves, we have to work on seeing it as getting closer and closer to the goal. Failures, rejections, and disappointments: they're all just boulders that try to throw us off track. If we let the negatives bring us down, then how can we rise up? Success is just around the corner, you're so close to finding the person just for you, your dream is in arm's reach, so don't let that bad news bring you down to step one. 

As I said earlier, I know this can be seen as easier said than done. A lot of things in life, advice, or tips are easier said than done, but when we take baby steps and start working on making our mind think a certain way, work on the good advice or tips given to us, that's when easier said than done becomes easy. Everything is a process, everything takes time to work on, and in the end, you will achieve those goals and you'll be exactly where you want to be. So don't let that rejection letter bring you down, don't let that failure rot your spirit, because it just means you're one step closer than you were before to reaching your goal. I believe in you, I know you can do it, and you will obtain all your goals and wishes. 

In the comments below, share with me what you do when you have to deal with rejections or failures or what advice you have for someone struggling with failures or disappointments. As always, thank you so much for reading, comment, like, share, and subscribe!

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