Have you ever had a time in your life where you just felt empty inside? Maybe you got laid off, a really important relationship to your heart ended (it may be romantic or friendship), or maybe you see that your life isn't moving forward. Any one of these reasons, or another unlisted, can be why we feel empty inside. You may be even feeling empty right now. If that's the case, then I do hope this post gives you the encouragement you need to fill your glass a little bit more than it was before.
The other day, I felt very empty inside; so empty that I felt as if I were dead. Of course when I was around family, or if I was out in public, I had to put a smile and laugh it off so it wouldn't look as if I were dead inside, because the last thing I want to do is trouble the people around me with my problems. If you read my post, "Stuck in the Unknown", you can have an idea of why I started feeling empty inside. I removed the person that hurt my heart, and in a sense, I was withdrawing from what I did, thus feeling empty.
I tend to noticed, for me personally, I start to feel very empty or dead inside when I experience a bad breakup or deal with a stressful moment in my life. During my empty days, I'll feel uninterested in hobbies or things I enjoyed, stay in bed for hours, keep to myself a lot, and at times, I'll have an anxiety attack. Once I've entered the anxiety attack phase, that's when I decide I really need to get myself together and figure out what to do. In those moments, what do you do? I know when you feel really out of your zone and just trying to hang on, it can be difficult to think and put yourself together.
As I always state: what works for me may not work for others, but it doesn't hurt to try it out. The biggest thing I do to get myself in a better mindset to feel less empty is:
Now, you may have heard of this before, but it's the 7-11 breathing technique. You slowly breathe in for seven seconds, then you breathe out for eleven seconds. Just by inhaling and exhaling slowly, you're able to relax and get your thoughts together. During an anxiety attack, panic attack, or just uncontrollable sobbing, I'm always struggling with shortness of breath, so by giving myself the chance to breathe helps so much. So what's the next step?
Relax and Surround Yourself with Affirmation
When I am going through an anxiety attack or struggling with shaking off the empty feeling, I lay down and reassure myself that I'm okay. Now, if someone is there with you during these moments, that's awesome! It's always good to have someone with you telling you that everything will be okay and that you're okay. For me, a majority of my struggles or anxiety attacks, I'm alone; so I have to reassure and tell myself that I'm okay. Just talking and calming myself down really helps me feel balanced and safe.
Listen to Something Calming
This step really helps me so much. In the past, I'd put on my headphones and listen to either songs that relate to how I'm feeling, background music, or just relaxing songs that bring me to a better mood. The past few days, I've been listening to people read encouraging biblical quotes, and I know not everyone is Christian, which is completely fine, but those have helped me out a lot during my low moments.
I don't feel as empty as I did the last few days, but it's not guaranteed that it won't come back. I struggled a lot these past few days. For a while, I lost interest in a lot of things I enjoyed, such as drawing, watching TV shows, and communicating with friends. I even was slowly losing interest in this blog; that's how bad it got. Although I may or may not feel fine tomorrow, it's a process, and I'm taking it day by day. I'm slowly working on getting back into the things that interest me or the things I want to improve on. If you're currently going through a moment, or days, in your life where you feel empty inside, don't let those feelings win. I know you may feel like that dead feeling will never go away, but I promise it will. Don't give up, don't lose hope, and believe in yourself, just as I believe in you.
In the comments, if you've ever felt empty inside or lost a passion for something, what advice would you give to help someone struggling in those moments? We all have our own battles we go through, but we shouldn't have to fight it alone. As always, thank you so much for reading, comment, like, share, and subscribe.